Living With Divorce

 Divorce is a common and often very painful reality in our society. Millions of couple who have high expectations at the wedding end up so disappointed later on that they call it quits. If you are considering or recovering from a divorce, here are some ideas to help you through the process.  

  •  If you're undecided about ending the marriage, that's okay . Divorce has long-term effects on adults and children alike, so it's not to be undertaken lightly. Counseling may help you manage conflicts in the marriage or prepare you to move on.
  • Seek out support from friends, family, or professionals . Divorce is a major life transition, and it’s important to be able to talk with others along the way.
  • if you have children, keep them out of the marital conflicts . Don’t try to turn your children against your spouse or interfere with their relationship with your spouse–you’ll only end up hurting your children. Try to maintain some stability in their lives. Make sure they understand they’re not to blame for the breakup.
  • You may have a lot of anger about the situation, which is perfectly normal . However, being angry all the time is unpleasant and unhealthy, so it’s in your best interest to learn how to manage the anger.
  • Be honest with yourself . Even if you blame your spouse for the marital problems, think about how you may have played a part in the situation. The better you understand what happened, the better your chances of avoiding similar problems in the future.
  • If possible, try to develop a civil relationship with your spouse . You may have to deal with each other for some time to come, especially if there are children in the picture.
  • Give yourself time to recover from the breakup before seeking out a new partner . If you start a new relationship too soon, you might bring some of the marital problems with you.
  • Look to the future . Although you’ve experienced a loss, you can also view the divorce as an opportunity to build a new life with new goals and dreams.